Friday, February 12, 2010

Oh NO!!! Another Valentine's Day Coming through

Valentine’s Day -- a day of exchanging flowers, cards, and loving sentiments punctuated with warm feelings of admiration, affection, and infatuation. But for millions of Singles, there is one thing preventing from participating in these celebratory acts of love: a date.

Being dateless on Valentine’s Day can evoke feelings of loneliness and self-doubt, especially for those who are believers in the mythology of true love. Embedded midway through the frosty season of winter, it is portrayed in the media, particularly in relentless flower, fragrance, and jewelry advertising(I hate for showing all the Valentine's Day's ADs of, as the singular day of year set aside for love, romance, and passion.

But what is a person to do when he or she is feeling the chilling blues of being single instead of embracing the fiery desire of love?

I particulary don't like the day as it emphasizes on only that particular day. I'm kinda thinker that the love for anyone should remain once for always. There is no room for the special day in Love. In Love, every day is special. Ohhh...that romantic days.

Anyways, I remember reading somewhere in the Internet, what else can we, the singles do on that particular day. Let me put it point wise.

  1. Do not define yourself by your relationship status. Your relationship status is not your identity. In a recent movie, the actor(hero) tells his friend that his facebook status is COMPLICATED. What complicated ??? Nothing is complicated, it's us who think there is complication in our status ? LOL
  2. If you are single because of a recent loss, allow this to be a day of grieving. Do not pretend that it’s not a hard day. Get support and sympathy.
  3. Realize that Valentine’s Day is a commercial holiday. It is not about love and relationships; it is about selling flowers, candy, and diamond jewelry. Think of all the money you are saving.
  4. Plan well in advance to do something that will not place you in the path of billing and cooing couples. Even if you usually like dining out alone, do something else on Valentine’s Day.
  5. Get together with people who do love you -- friends, family members, the people who already have relationships with you.
  6. If you are single and you don’t want to be, start now to think about what is in the way of you creating the relationship you want. Find ways to work on becoming the person your dream partner would fall in love with. Start therapy. Take up yoga. Begin to volunteer. Create art. Make meaning. Act to change the world. It is into the fullest lives that love is most likely to fall.
  7. If you are single and you like it, now is the time to affirm your choice. People who never marry or partner have close, loving, emotionally intimate relationships and lives worth living. Do not let a couple-driven culture define your choice as something wrong.

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